Monday, March 8, 2010

What's a Supermommy?

Hello All you Mommies and Daddies out there!

I wanted to make something very clear. This isn't a site where I tell you everything you need to do to get everything done in a day.
I don't do brain surgery while preparing a roast.
I don't reupholster my own furniture.
I don't grow my own vegetables, I don't wear pressed shirts, pencil skits, heel and pearls when I vaccum, and I don't get by on two hours of sleep.
I'm a real person who's more than aware of how hard it is to juggle or balance it all that life requires from us, especially when you add in being a parent.
I understand that week long plans can be cancelled at the last minute because a child is sick or the car won't start. I know that I'm human, flawed, and going to make mistakes, but I don't worry about them or freak out too often when I have a less-then-perfect moment.
So, what's the point of this blog if I'm not going to offer ways to get through your day with lightening speed and still have time to work out for two hours with an incredible manicure?
To emphasize one thing: We're all human and to explain what being a supermommy really is.
Supermommies (and Daddies) are people who get to the end of the day without running away to Taiti or who can still look at their families and say, "I really do love you, but you do drive me crazy sometimes.
Supermommies are women who sacrifice their own sanity at times in order to care for their families.
Now, I'm not talking of mommy sacrifice we see in movies like The Blind Side, Terms of Endreament, or Steel Magnolias. Sacrifice doesn't have to be as extreme as giving up a kidney or your child. It can simply be giving up who you are for several hours a day to care for others, but allowing yourself to be you.
Supermommies are those who still know who they are at their core. They remember who they were before marriage and/or babies arrived. They know there are times when they have to give some of that identity up for the sake of small (and not to small) ones. And yes, they sometimes lose their way to themselves, but they try very hard to get back to their woman-ness, their essence of who they are as a person, not as a wife, mother, partner, teacher, neighbor, PTA volunteer, carpool captain, coach and the numerous other things we do everyday. No, I mean the artist, the musician, the lover of John Hughes movies, the runner, the chocolate lover, or the girl who loves herself.
Supermommies are human beings, in need of some me time every once and awhile, a woman who'd like to go to the bathroom without someone banging on the door or standing right there as she poops. She's a woman who understands that she didn't sign up for everything about motherhood, but understands she's strong enough to get through it. It may not be graceful, but she will get through it.
So for all you supermommies out there, looking forward to hearing from you and talking to you.

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